I am a deeply self-conscious person who spends much of the time you're speaking to me wondering, "Do I have the right look on my face?" That doesn't mean I'm not listening, but it does mean I'm not there in the conversation like I should be. On the other hand, for instance, my brother is an amazing conversationalist. He's so present to every word being spoken to him. My brother stares piercingly into your eyes as you speak, as if he wants to wrestle your soul out of you and t